Follow-up

Had a talk with my firefighter B today, he is NOT living with the other guy's wife, so that is good.  He said there is nothing going on, and part of me believes him.  But if nothing is going on with the other guys wife, then my firefighter is really dumb, as just about everything he had done makes it look like there is something going on.  Told him that the next few months will let us all know wither what he told me is true, and just a big lie.  I have gotten more stories from this guy in four years then all the other firefighters put together in 20+ years.  Right now, he says he is living outside the area, and as such I should give him 30 days to move back in, but didn't do that.  Will wait to see what develops on the other front in the next 3-4 weeks time before we revisit that item.  This guy wants to be an officer, but has on so many occasions used such poor judgement that there is no way he can be an officer.  As we talked, he became very clear that he had put no thought into any of his actions.  His response was that maybe I care to much for people.  I told you don't care too much, but rather you don't think about the fall out from you actions before you do them.  I don't think that our talk had any effect on him.  I don't think I have every been as frustrated with a conversation with anyone as I was today with him.  Part of his problem is he doesn't see a problem, and part is the flawed value system that he has and that he lives by.  Because of it, even if he is right on this one, and I told him if he is exonerated, I will give him a public apology,  he is going to keep on making the same mistakes time after time.